What is love? It is a choice. Whether you choose to love God, others or yourself, it is a choice you have to consciously make. Once a decision is made out of love it will lead one to make the right choices over and over and this will lead to a more harmonious environment both internally and externally. As the topic of Love is such a wide topic, I will create a series called Love Matters. What do you think? The first in this series is ‘How to Love’.
No, I am not referencing the Lil’ Wayne song, although he makes a point.
“YOU HAD A LOT OF CROOKS TRYNA STEAL YOUR HEART,
NEVER REALLY HAD LUCK,
COULDN’T EVER FIGURE OUT HOW TO LOVE”
To express love, you must know how to love so that you can love. We can alter the lyrics a little, change ‘crooks’ to ‘persons’ and ‘steal’ to ‘win’ then it becomes a sad but true statement; persons may probably go through their entire lives trying to win hearts for moments or for lifetimes and never figure out ‘how to love’. Here’s a fun fact: the person, animal, place or thing (prep school game-some of you may get it) should not change your decision to love. Every decision you make should be made out of love. It is totally in your control.
So how do we do it? There’s no one size fits all answer but a foundation can be laid. Take math, we learned to add, multiply, take away and divide -these fundamentals can be applied to the same problem but in different ways. Let us look at the relationship between 28 and 4 for example; we could add 4 seven times, we could multiply 4 by 7, yet again we can divide 28 by 4 or take away 4 from 28 and realize it can only be done 7 times.
Therefore we can see that the relationship between 28 and 4 is 7 but achieved in different ways. The 28 and the 4 represent the persons involved and 7 represents love that exists between the two persons. Sometimes you have to multiply your efforts to show love, add a lil’ something extra or take away yourself from a situation so that love is maintained or divide your efforts because sometimes we can just do too much.
So to know which action to take to achieve love we first have to know, ‘what is love?’ One of the greatest examples that I can think of and that I try to implement in my daily life is as indicated by Jesus, who says we should do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Love others as you love yourself. Have some empathy people! You may be asking: What if persons are perverted in their way of thinking, cynical even? Fear not! The Bible also tells us in many passages the choices involved in what it is and what it is not, for e.g. in 1st Corinthians– It is patient, kind, it is not boastful, etc.
So let’s try something from this day forward, for every situation that may arise, go through the checklist of what love is, remember that the other factors involved do not change the fact that the decision you make should be made out of love and then decide which action you are going to take after your assessment. Leave a comment down below and tell me how you were able to act out of love today. I need inspiration too!12